You don't have to tolerate other people's bad behavior: You need to ask people how you want to be treated. If the way they approach you is not right then the best way would be to speak to them and let them know that that they cannot take you for granted and speak what they want. This is known as having personal boundaries and it's a way of letting people know what you are willing to tolerate in your presence. If you don't tell them, they will continue to treat you in whatever way they like. You need to speak your truth.