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How to Deal with Bullying at Work Place

By SiliconIndia   |   Wednesday, September 5, 2012
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Bangalore: Some workers may take their frustrations out on their teammates, which develops to Bullying. According to the CareerBuilder study, 35 percent of workers said they have felt bullied at work, which is an 8 percent increase from last year's 27 percent. 17 percent of the workers reported that they quit their jobs to escape the situation. While 16 percent suffered health-related problems according to Career Builder study. This means that Bullying can cause more harm than hurt feelings or bruised egos. The study, which conducted on more than 3,800 workers, revealed that company bullies are present at all levels. The survey found that there were bosses (48 percent) and co-workers (45 percent) involved in the bullying incidents. 31 percent have been picked on by their customers and 26 percent by someone like superiors than their boss. 44 percent of those bullied were tormented by people older than them, while 29 percent said the bully was younger as reported by Career Builder study. The Zogby study, in conjunction with the Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute (WBTI), found that 62 percent of employers ignore the problem; 40 percent of employees targeted by a bully never tell their employer. 45 percent of people targeted by a bully experience stress-related health problems including debilitating anxiety, panic attacks and clinical depression. More men (60 percent) are bullies, but women bullies target other women (71 percent). 45 percent of Americans have not experienced or witnessed bullying, but 37 percent have been bullied; 12 percent have witnessed bullying. Bosses comprise 72 percent of bullies. Dealing With a Bully: You can deal with a bully and change the bully's behavior by practicing personal courage. You will only encourage the bully; if you make yourself an easy target and the bully will not go away. Here's ways to deal with your bully. Exercise your right to tell the bully to stop the behavior. Try to describe the behavior you see the bully exhibiting and don't editorialize or offer opinions, just describe what you see. Stick with your own statement and if the bully violates your space then move on to confrontation. Jonathan Littman and Marc Hershon suggest in their book "I Hate People" that bullies are "only effective when they're on solid ground. Ground that you can take away." They suggest that, "Next time he swears or heaves a phone book, call it out. Point out that he's swearing or yelling, and leave the room. Or end the call." "Remember: You're the adult dealing with a tantrum. No wise parent gives in to a child's fit because it just leads to more fits. "You're wrapping Bulldozer's fury with tough love. By making statements about his conduct, you're putting him on notice. Keep up your game and by the second or third attempt, Bulldozer will tire of spinning his treads in the sand." Documenting the Bully's Actions: Any time you are feeling bullied or experiencing bullying behavior, document the date, time and details of the incident. Note if another employee witnessed the incident. If you eventually seek help from Human Resources, documentation, especially documentation of the bully's impact on business results and success, gives HR information to work with on your behalf. The bully is not just hurting your feelings; the bully is sabotaging business success. If the bullying occurs in email or correspondence, maintain a hard copy of the trail of emails and file them in a folder in your computer. According to a study recently posted on CareerBuilder's website "of the people who confronted their bullies on their own - a little less than half - 50 percent reached a resolution, 38 percent said that the bullying continued and 11 percent noted that the already unpleasant situation just became worse. Human Resources is a good place to report workplace bullying, but only 27 percent of survey participants have spoken to HR. And of those, a mere 43 percent said that something was done about it, while 57 percent apparently received no help". Workplace Bullying is a Health Hazard says an article written by Kelly Ni in Epoch Times News letter. Elizabeth Eckert, Ph.D., a wellness coach and author of "Word Cures: How to Keep Stupid Excuses From Sabotaging Your Health," said one key point to consider is that while a lot of times people fear a bully, it is really fear itself acting as the oppressor. Eckert says that you can't walk away from being bullied if you are imprisoned by fear.


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