Start loving what you hate:

If you want a positive change in your life, start loving what you hate as it can help you succeed at changing and helps you stay changed. According to the authors, to make this change happen, learn to disarm your impulses and make the right choices pleasurable. They also told that the only way where you can sustain change is to change what brings you pleasure. But, now you may think how to change what you like? The answer is, yes, you have to change yourself to have a good future and you must be ready to sacrifice your likes if it is required at the process of changing.

Do what you think you can’t:

You can always blame your character, if you find it difficult to change yourself in a positive way. But the fact is that there is nothing to do with your character because you lack the skills which the change actually requires. The authors are of the opinion that you are blind to the crucial role skills, which plays an important role in creating and sustaining change. And the main problem is not that you are weak, it’s actually ignorant to change yourself in a good way.